How often have you given your life a makeover? A fresh look, a revamped living space, a new skincare routine? These changes, undoubtedly familiar, are marked by hashtags like #newlife and #newyearnewme. But have you ever had a makeover that goes beyond the physical? One that transforms your life in a way that aligns with your authentic self?
In a world infatuated by external beauty and quick fixes, the physical makeover has evolved into a symbol of change and rejuvenation. Amid this allure, it stands as the go-to choice, offering a direct path to happiness and newfound confidence.
Yet, true transformation is much deeper. It resonates with the very essence of our being; it is the art of introspection – unveiling who we are so we can design a life that fits.
What does a makeover beyond the physical look like?
Discovering who you really are. Finding out what makes you, you (warts and all) - things like your strengths, values, personality, stressors, beliefs, significant life experiences.
Looking at your reality. Evaluating your personal and professional realities - what’s (really) working, what’s not, and what needs to change.
Paving the way forward. Determining what you need to do to get where you want to go. Like a course or a qualification? A stylist? Some counselling or professional support? A new social network?
And identifying the things that might get in the way. Finances, caring responsibilities, time, and effort.
Approaching a makeover this way can bring profound personal and professional benefits:
Increased confidence: A self-assuredness that influences all your interactions.
Meaningful relationships: An authenticity that attracts and inspires like-minded others.
Improved self-awareness: A deep understanding and appreciation of oneself.
Resilience: An ability to navigate challenges with determination.
A clear purpose: A focused approach to life; you know what you want, and what you don’t!
Improved physical and psychological wellbeing: A sense of happiness, joy, and enthusiasm.
Inner calm: A feeling of peace and contentment about who you are and where you’re going.
Deliberate decision-making: A roadmap for making choices that align with your true self.
The idea of looking closely at ourselves and our lives can evoke a range of emotions, often intertwined with fear and trepidation. We might confront aspects of ourselves that we’ve avoided or suppressed. We might be reminded of choices we’re not proud of, or mistakes we’ve made. We might question some of our long-held beliefs (the things we thought to be true) and narratives. This fear of self-discovery often stems from the uncertainty of what we might uncover, and the potential need for profound change that may result. Without truly understanding ourselves, however, we may never live in a way that is true to who we are.
If you’re genuinely considering this internal makeover and embarking on authentic transformation, here are some things to consider to get the most out of it:
Commit to self: Dedicate the time and energy to self-discovery.
Get curious: Ask yourself questions and explore deeply.
Be brave: Don’t shy away from the hard stuff.
Go gently: Take it at a pace that works for you. And take breaks when you need to.
Practise mindfulness: Tune in to your thoughts and emotions.
Be kind to yourself: This is about growth, not judgement.
Get support: Surround yourself with transformation allies.
Embrace change: Be open to new perspectives and approaches.
The true essence of beauty comes from within, shaped by self-discovery and introspection. By nurturing this inner beauty, we can be our best selves, and live life in a way that’s true to who we really are.